My kidlet and her boyfriend broke up. It killed me to see her so sad and I felt totally helpless to do anything to make her feel better. I really like her boyfriend and want them to get married in about 35 years so while I'm not as upset as she is, I'm still upset.
I remember my first huge love. He and I were like oil and water. When we got along, we got along very well but when we didn't, it was like world war. We were passionate! And young and hotheaded and immature. My kidlet is far more mature than I ever was at her age and she seems to be taking the breakup with grace and dignity but I can see that she's shattered.
I guess that her boyfriend got jealous over something and no matter what she said to him, he was convinced that things could not be repaired. I spied on them talking as he came to pick up his belongings and I could see my girl's shoulders sag as her guy drove away. She just stood there, watching him drive off - not moving a muscle. I finally went outside and guided her back inside and my heart just broke for her. She was so devastated, she didn't even cry. She just stared blankly at the ground. I tried talking to her for a bit but I don't think she was capable at the time.
Eventually I left for work and figured I could follow her on Facebook (because isn't that how parents keep track of their kids?). She was on for a while, then she just disappeared. Alarm bells started ringing in my head. What young adult gets off of Facebook?!?!? I tried calling her but her phone was turned off. In this day and age of instant access it's very disconcerting to be out of touch. I feel like the earth has stopped revolving! I didn't know whether to leave work and go home to check on my girl, or whether to simply give her some time to grieve.
I ended up giving her space but felt out of sorts all day long. When I finally got home, I found out she had gone to the guy's house to try and work things out. Later in the evening they both came to the house and I was so happy to see him, I hugged him and scolded him for breaking up and I told him that I loved him and didn't want them to EVER break up again. I'm sure my girl was mortified over my actions but I was just so happy that they were together again! I guess I'm really lucky that my girl has a guy that is so sweet I'm crazy about him. She's had a doozie or two that I wanted to murder so to have a keeper is wonderful.
I know I should keep my nose out of her business but I want her to be happy and she is with her dude. I can't wait till she's 35 and marries him. They'll have awesome kids. OH MY GAWD!!!! Did I just say that? That makes me sound like an old lady!